Episode 18: My Child or My Community? The Hardest Choice a Black Parent Makes

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In 2016, Nikole Hannah-Jones made headlines when she chose to send her daughter to a predominantly Black, under-resourced public school in Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn. Ten years later, she asked a harder question: In fighting for every Black child, did I betray my own?


Dr. Trina and Dr. Keisha are joined by Principal Keishan Barconey, a 17-year educator and parent of two, to unpack this debate. Together they explore what really happens inside under-resourced classrooms, how standardized tests leave some kids behind, and why seeing teachers and classmates who look like you matters for a child's sense of belonging. They also discuss the emotional cost of being "the only one" in a predominantly white school.


From Ruby Bridges to Brown v. Board, the conversation asks who carries the burden of integration: the child, the family, or the community. The panel doesn't reach a consensus, but they offer practical guidance for parents researching schools and simple ways professionals can give back to local schools.


So we're asking you: would you have made the same choice?


🎧 Listen now, and share your thoughts with us!



Sources & Further Reading


Nikole Hannah-Jones, "Choosing a School for My Daughter in a Segregated City," The New York Times Magazine, June 12, 2016. https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/12/magazine/choosing-a-school-for-my-daughter-in-a-segregated-city.html

Nikole Hannah-Jones, "In Fighting for Every Black Child, Did I Betray My Own?," The New York Times Magazine, September 20, 2026. https://www.nytimes.com/2026/09/20/magazine/ny-public-schools-black-students-segregation.html

Fresh Air (NPR), "How the Systemic Segregation of Schools Is Maintained by Individual Choices," Terry Gross's interview with Nikole Hannah-Jones about the 2016 essay. https://www.npr.org/transcripts/509325266

Vital City, "Nikole Hannah-Jones' Biggest Blind Spot." This piece responds critically to the 2026 essay. https://www.vitalcitynyc.org/nikole-hannah-jones-biggest-blind-spot/

Brown v. Board of Education of Topeka, 347 U.S. 483 (1954), the Supreme Court decision referenced in the episode.

Ruby Bridges, Through My Eyes (Scholastic, 1999). This is her firsthand account of integrating William Frantz Elementary in New Orleans in 1960.


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